Étiquette : introversion

Le small talk nous manque

Je ne suis pas particulièrement un fan de « small talk », de petit parlage (?), mais c’est vrai que même moi, je m’en ennuie un peu.

Semble-t-il que c’est normal.

Marissa King and Balázs Kovács, writing in Harvard Business Review, report that, during the pandemic, our personal and professional circles have decreased by 16 percent. For men, it’s even worse—as much as 30 percent. And it’s not just work small talk that we’re missing out on. Chatting with strangers out in public can also prove valuable—though it’s now increasingly rare. Gillian Sandstrom, a psychologist at the University of Essex, conducted one study that found that, when people engaged more with a barista—smiling, making eye contact, conversing—they felt a greater sense of community belonging. In another, her data showed that, the more people mingled with acquaintances or strangers in a day, the better their mood and sense of connection.

Hâte au retour du small talk… à petite dose.

Ces introvertis qui craignent la fin de la pandémie

J’ai déjà fait les manchettes (genre) parce que je m’adapte bien au confinement pandémique. Mais ça n’empêche pas que j’ai hâte en maudit que ça finisse. Ce n’est pas le cas de tous, si je me fie à cet article du Washington Post.

She says introverts will have to deal with the irony that, for many, 2020 was one of the happiest years of their lives — and that happened because so many other people were sick or dying. That’s classic survivor’s guilt, she says, and being miserable is not going to change an outcome you can’t control.

Pourtant, tous les introvertis ne souffrent pas de phobie sociale.

Il y a quand même beaucoup de choses inspirantes dans cet article, comme cette idée d’adapter l’environnement de travail aux différentes personnalités.

John Hackston, head of thought leadership at the Myers-Briggs Company, not only describes himself as an introvert but studies personality types to create better fits for employers and employees. He says that before the pandemic, introverts were expected to adapt to an extroverted world: Speak up at meetings, adapt to the culture of the workplace, be team players. “All cultures, but Western culture in particular, encourages what you might call stereotypically extroverted style of behavior,” says Hackston. “Rightly or wrongly, introverts had to find ways to adapt. A lot of that mental load was taken away when the pandemic hit.”

Accepter les introvertis et les extravertis comme ils sont et tirer bénéfice de leur complémentarité.

Pandémie: les introvertis s’en tirent mieux

Même si j’en ai plein mon casque du confinement, je me suis plutôt bien adapté à la situation. Selon cette étude, c’est le cas de bien des introvertis.

Significant interactions terms were found suggesting differential impacts of the COVID epidemic for students with low versus high levels of particular traits. Higher levels of extraversion, for example, were found to be related to decreases in mood as the pandemic progressed in contrast to those with lower extraversion, for whom there was a slight increase in mood over time. These data support the conclusion that personality traits are related to mental health and can play a role in a person’s ability to cope with major stressful events. Different traits may also be more adaptive to different types of stressors.

Personality trait predictors of adjustment during the COVID pandemic among college students

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Vous voulez vous extirper d’une conversation? Vous n’êtes peut-être pas le seul

Selon cette étude, les gens sont très mauvais pour juger du désir de l’autre de mettre fin à une conversation.

Mastroianni and his colleagues found that only 2 percent of conversations ended at the time both parties desired, and only 30 percent of them finished when one of the pair wanted them to. In about half of the conversations, both people wanted to talk less, but their cutoff point was usually different. Participants in both studies reported, on average, that the desired length of their conversation was about half of its actual length. To the researchers’ surprise, they also found that it is not always the case that people are held hostage by talks: In 10 percent of conversations, both study participants wished their exchange had lasted longer. And in about 31 percent of the interactions between strangers, at least one of the two wanted to continue.

Most people also failed at intuiting their partner’s desires. When participants guessed at when their partner had wanted to stop talking, they were off by about 64 percent of the total conversation length.

People Literally Don’t Know When to Shut Up—or Keep Talking—Science Confirms

La stratégie de demander à un ami de venir vous sauver d’une discussion ne peut pas toujours fonctionner.